In the title of this entry I am not referring to my leg. It is doing much better! It looks ugly but I walk like a human, and it doesn't hurt when my little man bumps my leg, or asks if that is my sore leg as he taps it or something.
Instead, I am referring to parenting. I watch so many parents and wonder how they do their parenting so gracefully. Here is what I am talking about. I have a stretch in ages here in my home at the moment. I have 3 weeks to 19 years. In the past General Conference we were instructed as parents that it is our responsibility as parents to watch out for out children. To protect them from the world if you may. If we don't the world will take every opportunity given to teach our children, and they are like sponges. (The talk I am talking about is found at the following site: http://lds.org/general-conference/2010/10/courageous-parenting?lang=eng&query=courageous )
The Nineteen year old is ready to stretch his wings and experience the world for himself. He is not a bad kid, in fact he is making a lot of decisions right now that fill a parent with pride. Here is the problem he would like to watch movies that we have not allowed in our home for various reasons. In our home my husband and I have the rule of no PG-13 unless it is okayed by he and I. So in our collection you will find Lord of the Rings, Star Wars and a few pre-approved chick flicks. Mostly though we have kids movies and movies that we can watch with our children in our comfort zone.
Remembering back to when I was a kid, I had watched many movies and been oblivious to some of the content. Later when I had the movie and was watching it with my children (gasp) I have had one of those moments many of us have experienced, you know, "my parents let me watch this?" then you look back and realize it may have been seen at a friends house, a sleep over, or just a day out with your friends.
My young man has began renting his own movies. Up until today I have had little problem. Usually he will watch them on his computer with his headset on. I figure when he has children of his own, he will either understand why we had our rule, or he will make his own rules. However today he wanted to show one of these movies in the family room with his girl, and he invited his younger brother. He told me the movie showed that the human race as a whole is good. In the past I have heard that this movie is morbid and not kid friendly. He had just told me yesterday that it would not be appropriate for the younger children. I didn't realize we were having this discussion for my approval of watching it as a family video. I had though he would be taking it to a friends or watching it on his computer.
Many thoughts raced through my head. First of all I am the parent, it is my responsibility to protect my younger children. Second of all is he for real? Third, how am I going to tell the younger children they have to be in a separate end of the home because I think the movie their brother has chose is in appropriate? Fourth was panic mode. Panic mode is never pretty with me, because I don't think things through, I say what is on my mind, and it is hardly ever with grace and I feel like I lose some dignity pretty much every time. Mainly I think I have lost pride.
I was able to redirect this young man and his girl to a different movie but only after a melt down of my own. In all truth I wish this parenting thing was all easier. My children would just take my word on things, they would not question me, they would know I had their best interest at heart. My real problem is I am not big on the confrontational thing. I don't do it with grace. I wish there was a book out there that would tell me how each child ticked, and how to approach things with them.
Until that book is written I guess I will just have to take it a day at a time. Prayer is something I should rely on more, and trust that He knows what He asks me to do is another thing I could work on.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Friday, February 11, 2011
What a crazy week!
Well, I could have lives with out this past week. Though my husband assures me that this week is an experience I will be able to use to either relate to others or teach them in the future. So I bet you are just a tad curious. Don't be, I am about to tell you all about it.
Last Wednesday My leg was hurting, there were red blotches on my calf and a couple on my thigh. I called the Dr to see if it was something I ought to worry about. He instructed me I ought to head to the ER right away. A friend of mine was coming into town and I asked her to join me because hubby needed to stay home with the baby and kids.
In the ER they performed an ultrasound on my leg and decided I didn't have a blood clot. *Phew*. The instructions were for me to go home, put heat compresses on my legs and exercise as my leg would allow. I could take Ibuprofen as needed, if I followed the instructions on the bottle. She told me pretty much I had little to worry about.
That night I put a heat compress on it. It felt great while the heat was on it, but hurt like a blimey bugger when the heat was removed.
By Sunday the red covered most of my calf and a good portion of my thigh. It was very painful to the touch, and walking was a miserable task. At church I showed my leg to a couple of friends, and they were shocked! The informed me I ought to go in as soon as I could to have it looked at again. After church my hubby and I headed int Urgent Care. On my way in I said a prayer that the Dr. who looked at my leg would know what he was looking at and know how to take care of my problem.
When I was in with the Dr. He took one look at my leg and I could tell it wasn't good. He told me I have Celulitus and Flabitus. He was shocked to see it having progressed as far as it had before I had decided to come in. Basically what it is is an infection in my veins just under the skin. He had blood work drawn and checked my temp. both came in normal (thank goodness, otherwise he later told me he would have had me hospitalized.) He than had the nurse give me a big juicy shot right in the buttock. I was instructed to avoid putting heat on it and stay off it as much as my children would allow, keep it elevated! Return Monday and Tuesday for follow up shots and we will see from there.
On my visit Tuesday I was given an antibiotic to take for the next two weeks as my leg clears up. Wednesday my leg turned purple. I had to take the little one in and his Dr looked at it and told me it is healing nicely. So here we are on the mend. I now only have a dull pain, and and ugly leg. I have been blessed with the help of family and ward family through this whole ordeal. I can't express the gratitude I feel enough!
Last Wednesday My leg was hurting, there were red blotches on my calf and a couple on my thigh. I called the Dr to see if it was something I ought to worry about. He instructed me I ought to head to the ER right away. A friend of mine was coming into town and I asked her to join me because hubby needed to stay home with the baby and kids.
In the ER they performed an ultrasound on my leg and decided I didn't have a blood clot. *Phew*. The instructions were for me to go home, put heat compresses on my legs and exercise as my leg would allow. I could take Ibuprofen as needed, if I followed the instructions on the bottle. She told me pretty much I had little to worry about.
That night I put a heat compress on it. It felt great while the heat was on it, but hurt like a blimey bugger when the heat was removed.
By Sunday the red covered most of my calf and a good portion of my thigh. It was very painful to the touch, and walking was a miserable task. At church I showed my leg to a couple of friends, and they were shocked! The informed me I ought to go in as soon as I could to have it looked at again. After church my hubby and I headed int Urgent Care. On my way in I said a prayer that the Dr. who looked at my leg would know what he was looking at and know how to take care of my problem.
When I was in with the Dr. He took one look at my leg and I could tell it wasn't good. He told me I have Celulitus and Flabitus. He was shocked to see it having progressed as far as it had before I had decided to come in. Basically what it is is an infection in my veins just under the skin. He had blood work drawn and checked my temp. both came in normal (thank goodness, otherwise he later told me he would have had me hospitalized.) He than had the nurse give me a big juicy shot right in the buttock. I was instructed to avoid putting heat on it and stay off it as much as my children would allow, keep it elevated! Return Monday and Tuesday for follow up shots and we will see from there.
On my visit Tuesday I was given an antibiotic to take for the next two weeks as my leg clears up. Wednesday my leg turned purple. I had to take the little one in and his Dr looked at it and told me it is healing nicely. So here we are on the mend. I now only have a dull pain, and and ugly leg. I have been blessed with the help of family and ward family through this whole ordeal. I can't express the gratitude I feel enough!
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Dinner
Tonight a good friend of the family brought our family dinner as a Welcome gift of the new little addition. Boy was her meal welcome! We all felt it! I have been taking care of the little one, and my husband has been taking care of sickling children while being sick himself. It has been quite the picture around here...luckily this too shall pass. Until then we are grateful for the many wonderful friends we have out here.
Back to my friend bringing dinner. She brought enough for an army! My Little man thanked her all of the way into the kitchen showing our friend the gratitude we were all feeling. As she sat and held the new little guy in our family my Two year old went to the table looked at the spread she had brought for us and asked when we were going to eat. He sat there eyeing it all for a good 5 min., decided he had done his waiting patiently and decided it was time to enjoy this spread. When we did sit down to eat he ate it all! He being my pickiest eater these days just made my day. I hope my friend understands what a compliment this is and how much we appreciate her!
Cereal and sandwiches is all the little man has been getting the past couple of days. No wonder the gratitude and readiness for a good home cooked meal. What a blessing. Thank you again!
Back to my friend bringing dinner. She brought enough for an army! My Little man thanked her all of the way into the kitchen showing our friend the gratitude we were all feeling. As she sat and held the new little guy in our family my Two year old went to the table looked at the spread she had brought for us and asked when we were going to eat. He sat there eyeing it all for a good 5 min., decided he had done his waiting patiently and decided it was time to enjoy this spread. When we did sit down to eat he ate it all! He being my pickiest eater these days just made my day. I hope my friend understands what a compliment this is and how much we appreciate her!
Cereal and sandwiches is all the little man has been getting the past couple of days. No wonder the gratitude and readiness for a good home cooked meal. What a blessing. Thank you again!
Our New Little Man
Well, our latest little bundle of joy has joined us this past weekend! What an adventure! He weighed in at a whopping 10 lbs, and 21 3/4" long! He has a bit of hair and a sweet personality! His brothers and sisters are all excited about him. My little lady cant keep her hands off his head, she loves the way his hair feels. My first little man proudly announces to everyone that his little brother is here. It is fun to see them with him. I can hardly wait till everyone is feeling better around our house so we can all interact with him.
I thought I would share the latest news, and now need to go take care of the little tyke. I hope you all have a wonderful day!
I thought I would share the latest news, and now need to go take care of the little tyke. I hope you all have a wonderful day!
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